5/29/2023
Salutations.
It is now 5:29AM EST for me.
I will start explaining idea ‘Need realize’ today. If I finish explaining it today, I will start explaining idea ‘Lie penalty initiate’, and if I finish that, I will start explaining idea ‘Lie think initiate’. Around 7:00AM, I’m going to order IHOP food for the 1st time using Grubhub. In the past few weeks or so, I’ve been exploring 3 food delivery apps, DoorDash, GrubHub, and UberEats, and I noticed that the apps are improving since last time I checked. For example, more of their selections are offering more photographs of their food, and more restaurants have been added. Last time, I ordered from a restaurant that added more distance to their delivery. I recommend that if you order from a restaurant that is noticeably far away from you, be patient with them. If the app says that the food is being delivered to you, but doesn’t show the car approaching you, and that can happen because that restaurant has it’s own delivery service, try not to call that restaurant. Your credit card has been charged, the app says that the delivery person is on his/her way, so just wait. Even if the app recommends that you call them, add like 30 minutes to that if the restaurant is farther than normal. Of course, if the app is showing the car approaching you, and you can text the driver, then you can track the order like you would normally do.
I am going to look for a music video and trailer now for this idea. I’m also going to start preparing the refence(s) for the idea before I start typing again. So, if you are there later today, I’ll see you then.
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It is now 10:21AM EST for me.
Before I begin, I want to add an idea now to help you watch the music video that I’m about to recommend to you, and as a separate idea. I imagined it, I don’t know if it actually happens: I imagine a learning situation that’s happening in more and more companies/jobs, where employees are allowed and encouraged to participate and learn from situations that would normally have expectations that would outright not allow people in general to learn from them. It makes it easier for employees to learn certain things from such situations. Here’s an example: let’s say I participated in such a situation with other employees. Several years later, I chose to participate in a job related project that used what I have learned from such a situation, but the project added more expectations to what I have learned. An employee who worked with me several years ago and I am now managing with that project expressed her disappointment as to how I’m using what I have learned, saying to me that ‘she doesn’t know me anymore’. I tried to explain to her that, when we were working together back then, there were no expectations, which allowed us to learn at our own pace that which was taught for us to learn. Now, the company is allowing me to use what I have learned, but with job related expectations. Nothing personal.
So, in regards to the music video, think of music videos being made in such a situation. Since there are no expectations, the artists/singers/etc. are allowed to make their music videos with no pressure to inhibit their abilities to express their individualities, no comparisons to discourage their efforts. When you watch the music video I will recommend, try to see that ‘the basics’ are there, even though your comparisons as to what a good music video is like may give your evaluation of the music video a discouraging evaluation, that you don’t like the music video, for example. Even though there seems to be an explosion of music video making based on youtube.com in America, that doesn’t prove to me that every major country on Earth is doing the same thing. If emerging artists are going to be encouraged to make music videos that will be presented in America, than in my opinion certain expectations may have to be disabled/turned off in order for them to be able to make such music videos. Of course, in my opinion, the basics will be there, but ‘basics’ are subjective, also based on those who are watching it, not just something that allows a music video to be played on youtube. So, if you choose to watch the music video I will recommend to you, maybe this advice will allow you to make it useful to you, instead of not liking it, and then you won’t use it anymore.
The music video that I watched for the 1st time earlier today and recommend for this advice is called ‘Top Bop’ by Iman Fandi. I found it by selecting publisher ‘Vevo’ from www.youtube.com. Select ‘New Releases On Vevo’, and music video ‘Top Bop’ is #412 out of 440 videos. It was published 1 month ago with 14K views by publisher ‘Iman Fandi’. Here is a quote from link ‘https://wiki.sg/’ that I found by searching in www.google.com for phrase ‘iman fandi wiki’:
‘ Iman Fandi (born 18 May 2000) is a Singaporean model and the only daughter to local football icon Fandi Ahmad and the former South African model Wendy Jacobs. Iman forayed into modelling at 14 years old when she clinched two titles at the 2014 TNP New Face competition. ‘
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According to wikipedia, Singapore (/ˈsɪŋ(ɡ)əpɔːr/ (listen)), officially the Republic of Singapore, is an island country and city-state in maritime Southeast Asia, and Singapore’s native language is English. If you choose to watch the music video ‘Top Bop’, you’ll probably sense that it feels different from the music videos that you may normally watch. Let’s say that you like certain music videos that are not made in America, like K-Pop. Well, I recommend that you speculate that not all music videos made from other countries will be like K-Pop music videos. In my opinion, it’s like trying other foods from other countries. If you are used to only American foods, you may have to make an effort to learn to like the taste of foods from other countries.
Here’s a quote from the song ‘Top Bop’:
Came up started from nothing, write it down
Never thought it be something
Follow to the ways that we all know
But I don’t wanna go, no
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When I watched the music video, there was a lot of synchronized dancing. I did, however, sense a unique vibe while watching it. It’s new to me. I find it acceptable that I am allowed to watch such a music video, and that emerging artists like Iman Fandi continue to allow us to watch their music videos.
The trailer that I watched earlier today and recommend for this advice is called ‘Dune: Part Two | Official Trailer’. It’s published 3 weeks ago by Warner Bros. Pictures and has 22M views.
I just searched in www.youtube.com for phrase ‘dune 2 trailer’ and found it. I look using other publishers, but I wasn’t able to find one. Right at the end of the trailer, it says that it will be made available only in theatres November 3 of this year. If you watched the 1st part of Dune, then you may want to watch the 2nd part.
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Need realize:
It is now 11:21AM EST for me.
Like I did many times before, to help explain idea ‘Need realize’, I will 1st quote the illustration references, and then use those references in the explanation. I’ll use 3 illustration references from 2 movies.
The 1st illustration reference is in movie ‘Star Trek: The Motion Picture(1979)’ starring William Shatner as Captain Kirk, and DeForest Kelley as Dr. McCoy. The movie is available streaming on Amazon.com, and according to Amazon Video, that scene starts about 33 minutes and 37 seconds into the movie. Here is the quote:
Captain Kirk: ‘Bones, there’s a thing out there.’
Dr. McCoy: ‘Why is any object we don’t understand always called a “thing”?
Captain Kirk: ‘Headed this way. I need you. (edited)Bones. I need you. Badly!’
Captain Kirk: (offering his hand and emphasizing the offer to Dr. McCoy.)
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The 2nd and 3rd illustration examples is in movie ‘Dungeons & Dragons: Honor Among Thieves(2023)’ starring Chris Pine as Edgin, Michelle Rodriguez as Holga, and Justice Smith as Simon. The movie is available streaming from Amazon.com, and according to Amazon Video, the 2nd illustration starts 32 minutes and 9 seconds into the movie:
Edgin: ‘Me? No. A druid maybe, a Wild Shape. They could get in and out undetected as a– as a mouse or a–‘
Holga: ‘A deer.’
Edgin: ‘Yes, a deer! It’ll blend in with all the other deer in the castle.’
Holga: ‘Don’t mock me.’
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The 3rd illustration reference starts before that scene, 31 minutes and 36 seconds into the movie:
Simon: ‘Her magic is on a whole other level.’
Edgin: ‘Don’t sell yourself short. We saw your show.’
Holga: ‘Yeah, you can hit her with that fresh-cut grass trick.’
Simon: ‘That’s funny.’
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Now, this blog is about giving you advice to help you more tenably experience mild to moderate forms of instigation. Here’s an example of what idea ‘Need realize’ means:
Holga: ‘A deer.’
Edgin: ‘Yes, a deer! It’ll blend in with all the other deer in the castle.’
Holga: ‘Don’t mock me.’
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When Edgin said quote:
Edgin: ‘Yes, a deer! It’ll blend in with all the other deer in the castle.’
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Edgin wanted Holga to feel a need to realize something, in a context that is supposed to be criticizing to her, and her reaction sort of validates that effect, when Holga said quote:
Holga: ‘Don’t mock me.’
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I’m an adult, but I don’t teach kids in a classroom, or have any kids of my own that I raised. Still, it is my belief that when many American kids are learning to communicate with each other, they sound like how Edgin and Holga talk to each other. One kid says something criticizing to the other kid, and even though the other kid may not like being talked to that way, the other kid may eventually choose to communicate with another kid that way. Here is an example where Holga also needed Simon to realize something:
Simon: ‘Her magic is on a whole other level.’
Edgin: ‘Don’t sell yourself short. We saw your show.’
Holga: ‘Yeah, you can hit her with that fresh-cut grass trick.’
Simon: ‘That’s funny.’
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So, Holga needed Simon to also realize something, and Simon presented a reciprocating reaction.
I believe that the excuse the movie is using to allow it’s characters to present themselves that way, besides the fact that the movie is a comedy, is that the place where this is supposed to be happening is not Earth, allowing adults to talk that way, so that it is entertainingly believable.
Now, based on the idea that I created, when you experience an instigation and/or inadvertency from an instigator to ‘need to realize’ something, it has a very predictable result of being bothersome to you. Let’s say, for the sake of learning this idea, just imagined, not based on anything real, that if you are an adult reading this idea, that as a kid, you talked to other kids and adults a lot like the way Edgin and Holga talked to each other. There are other situations in the movie where expressions of needing to realize something were expressed. Obviously, when talking to other kids, if one kid wanted you to ‘need to realize’ something, at least you get to say something back. Now that you are an adult, if you have been experiencing instigations that may cause you to ‘need to realize’ something, it doesn’t even have to be in a conversation seemingly directed at you! It could be an experience the instigation wants you to have, and it would still create the same effect, to cause you to need to realize something, in a bothersome context. Now, you are an adult, and you can no longer give the same verbal responses like you used to to other kids.
The solution that I created, this ‘time loop’ that the instigator has put you in, to react to some need to realize something that has predictable, bothersome results to you, is to allow yourself to sense that bothersome need to realize something, but to not use it in the context of being bothered to need to realize something. In other words, allow yourself to feel that need to realize something, but don’t become it. Don’t react like Holga said:
Holga: ‘Don’t mock me.’
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I guess for starters we? can practice with what Edgin said to Holga:
Edgin: ‘Yes, a deer! It’ll blend in with all the other deer in the castle.’
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The person doesn’t have to be an instigator. You can imagine anyone from your school/job saying that to you, but instead of reacting like Holga did, just feel that reaction, but don’t become/use it. Based on how I created the idea, you should feel a lot better about it, since you now have the option to use that experience with bothersome results. And as an added bonus, if you experienced such an instigation, and the instigator didn’t even talk to you normally, just caused you to experience a need to realize something, then your logic, if you choose to use the idea, is more enabled to evaluate the experience without needing to become/use that experience.
I used that scene from the movie ‘Star Trek: The Motion Picture’ to illustrate what the word ‘Need’ means from idea ‘Need realize’. When Kirk said to Bones that he needed him, he offered his hand to Bones, and that hand and arm emphasis is what I recommend you contemplationally recall when you are choosing to think about what the word ‘Need’ means.
OK. So if you are an adult that chooses to use idea ‘Need realize’, with the rest of this idea, just contemplationally say ‘Need realize’, and recall when instigators and inadvertencies caused you to ‘need to realize’ something, but now, with this idea, you can feel that experience, but have the option to no longer use/become that experience.
Idea ‘Need realize’ will be used for the next 4 ideas that I currently plan on explaining, ‘Lie penalty initiate’, ‘Lie think initiate’, ‘Lie retain’, and ‘Lie verify’. I’ll let you practice using idea ‘Need realize’ before I introduce you to the other ideas this coming Thursday, unless I change my mind again. Of course, if you are a new reader, or will be a new reader, then that won’t matter to you.
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It is now 12:51PM EST for me.
I’m going to close this list now. I have plans to explain ideas ‘Lie penalty initiate’, ‘Lie think initiate’, ‘Lie retain’, and ‘Lie verify’, unless I change my mind again. So, if you are there this coming Thursday, I’ll see you then.
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Based on the trailer, sci-fi violence, viewer discretion for ‘Dune: Part Two’. Sci-fi violence, viewer discretion for movie ‘Star Trek: The Motion Picture’. Rated PG-13 for fantasy action/violence and some language for movie ‘Dungeons & Dragons: Honor Among Thieves’. Use only refurbished for advice references recommended. Throw away rest of movie. [Use mental bookmark ‘Need realize’ for reference, allocation, and prevention when needed.