9/14/2023

Salutations.

It is now 6:50AM EST for me.

Just letting you know very quickly that I’ll start typing again around 8:40AM, about 2 hours from now. If you are there, I’ll see you then.

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It is now 8:49AM EST for me.

I know that I originally was going to explain idea ‘Do something’ today. Even though I said that I would find it a relaxing experience to explain that, once I start explaining it, then it may take me several Thursdays to explain it. So, before I make that commitment, I believe that it’s better for you if I explain a few more ideas. Therefore, I’ve decided to upgrade the ‘Prepare’ idea that I explained in Wishlist #1400, in a context that is designed to help single men out who have experienced mild to moderate forms of instigation by women that they find attractive. Don’t worry. Even though the focus is to help single men, and I think it should work since I am also a single man, having a more developed ability to prepare is something that can be useful generalistically, so just refurbish it to be useful to you.(older kids, teenagers, adults, many schools of thought, etc.) Of course, decide for yourself if it’s useful to you. After explaining that idea today, I will start explaining idea ‘Do something’ next Thursday, unless I change my mind.

I want to say that I have been watching music video ‘That Thing’ by Hazel English several times, the one I recommended from Wishlist #1402. Even though I watched it once before recommending it, it looked different to me as I would watch it again. I though that some? of the girls might find that information useful.

Before I start looking for that music video and trailer again, I want to recommend another thing that I purchased from Amazon.com:

After Bite Xtra Gel New & Improved (4 Pack)

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It’s only about $20 with Prime shipping available.

I’m not a doctor, but so far, for me, when I would get some sort of insect bite like a mosquito bite, and that little bump and infection would occur, such as that itch, so far, it’s the best medication that would stop the itch from occurring. I tried a few other things, but this After Bite Xtra Gel really works for me. You get 4 0.7 oz tubes for that price.

Here’s a partial quote from Amazon.com:

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Here’s a quick quote from the single use extra amazon.com link:

Best anti-itch ointment I’ve ever used. Relieves even the worst insect bites within minutes.

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For insect repellant, I recommend this:

OFF! Family Care, Insect Repellent II Clean Feel, 6 oz ( Pack of 4 )

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You should be able to purchase insect repellant from many places. Even though I use insect repellent regularly, I still get bitten on my hands if I forget to use it. That is why I recommend the After Bite Xtra Gel. Now that I have the Gel, I am more aware to use my insect repellent. I put it on my hands now before I go outside. But if I develop an infection that is noticeable to me, it’s good to have the After Bite Extra Gel. I have one in my backpack now. According to Amazon.com, I 1st purchased the 4 pack on Last purchased Sep 9, 2023. It’s relatively new for me to use.

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It is now 9:31AM EST for me.

I am going to look for that music video and trailer now. Soon after I prepare them, I’ll start typing again. If you are there, I’ll see you then.

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It is now 10:48AM EST for me.

It took me about an hour and 20 minutes to prepare them both. I thought it was worse than that. To me, it felt worse than that.

Before I begin the music video description, let me type in something about the singer from www.wikipedia.org:

Born 16 December 1999 (age 23)
Kumasi, Ghana

Gyakie was raised in Kumasi in the Ashanti Region of Ghana.

In March 2022, Gyakie was adjudged the Woman of the Year for the 3Music Awards 2022 during the 3Music Women’s brunch.

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And here is a quote from a link I found searching in www.google.com from phrase ‘gyakie something reviews’. The link is thenativemag.com:

This new song is an impressive change of pace, as she sounds deeply annoyed by an inconsistent partner. “It’s like I’m walking far away to you/Baby, don’t try,” Gyakie sings on the bridge, extending an olive branch without coming across as smitten.

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And here is a quote from the lyrics:

Cuz if you willing, normally this
I will come through
I will come running riding witchu
And you know like this, oo aaa
And if you tell me your wishes
I’ll come through
I’ll come running riding with you
And you know like this, oo aaa

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I’m not a cultural anthropologist, so you may relate to her from the movie ‘Coming 2 America(2021)’ starring Eddie Murphy as Prince Akeem, her accent.

The reason I’m saying all of this in advance is because, based on how I reacted when watching the music video, even though I see nothing wrong in it(suitable for general audiences), because you may not be used to her expression of culture, certain things that you may notice may feel mildly offensive at 1st. In my opinion, it’s just the beginning scene. A man portraying Gyakie’s relationship partner is touching her arm. They’re not even hugging, and to me, it felt a little inappropriate. My senses of course were wrong, but because the expression of her culture was new to me, I’m not used to it, I interpreted an aspect of that expression as mildly inappropriate. So, if you choose to watch the music video, I’m letting you know that in advance.

I found the music video by selecting in www.youtube.com publisher ‘Vevo’, scroll down and select ‘Featured Channels’, select ‘Vevo UK’, scroll down to the bottom and select ‘OTHER Playlists’, select ‘View full playlist’ from ‘Emerging Artists Playlist 2023 – Discover the Best NEW &…’ , music video ‘Gyakie – SOMETHING (Official Music Video)’ is #289 out of 517 music videos. To watch the music video, search in www.youtube.com for phrase ‘gyakie something’, and it should be one of the 1st selections offered, with 12M views! It was published by publisher ‘Gyakie Music’ 1 year ago.

The music video is in English, so you may not be used to it’s cultural expression, which I’m assuming is from Ghana. America is supposed to be a melting pot of cultures and beliefs, am I right?

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The movie trailer that I watched for the 1st time earlier today and recommend for this advice is ‘Aquaman and the Lost Kingdom | Teaser’. As I was looking for a trailer earlier today, I saw it advertised, but I noticed that it’s only about 30 seconds, because it’s a teaser. The full trailer I think was coming out later today. As I continued to look for a trailer, I finally chose to use it, because I couldn’t find a more preferred trailer.

I found it from publisher ‘Movie Coverage’. For you to go there, search phrase ‘movie coverage’ in www.youtube.com, select publisher ‘Movie Coverage’, select ‘PLAYLISTS’, select ‘The Best ACTION / THRILLERS’, and Movie Coverage’s Aquaman teaser is #7. After seeing that, I chose to use it, but I wanted a higher view count. I then searched in www.youtube.com for phrase ‘aquaman and the last kingdom teaser’, and publisher ‘DC’ offered the teaser with 1.9M views! That was published 3 days ago, and I chose to watch that one.

In my opinion, there’s not much to say about it, since it only was about 30 seconds. I can watch it again, but I’d rather not. I’m just grateful that I found a trailer.

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It is now 11:35AM EST for me.

Grudgingly:

Before I start explaining idea ‘Prepare’ for single men, the obvious effect that I’m anticipating is that it will enable you more, if you decide to use it. So, here’s a story I made I think a few years ago in a previous list. For here, I’m giving it the name ‘Grudgingly’. Here’s the definition of the word from www.dictionary.com that I’m using for this idea:

reluctantly or unwillingly; not generously or with a good will:
He tried to evade the work and the responsibility until the very last moment and then grudgingly, finally, exasperatingly did his job.

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Here’s the reason for idea ‘Grudgingly’: I want you to have some reservation, once you are enabled more for using idea ‘Prepare’. Since I’m giving you the advice in the context that it is new to you, it should benefit you to have some reservations when using it. In the story, the retired woman depicted in it does something ‘grudgingly’. Here is the story:

A retired man is looking for a retirement home to live in, one that has some theatre involvement for it’s inhabitants. He’s shopping around, visiting retirement homes to see if they have any theatre participation. As he was leaving one retirement home after asking about their theatre involvement, one of the retired woman inhabitants grudgingly said something to him involving a certain theatrical performance. The retired man smiled, and smiled as he turned around in response to that woman’s theatrical performance.

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So, in the story, the woman grudgingly at 1st was beginning the informing process that their retirement home did indeed have theatrical participation as one of their activities. The story ends there, but that should lead to that retired man to join their retirement home community.

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So, have some reservations when exposed to new interactions when using idea ‘Prepare’. Learn to hold back a little. Get used to using the idea.

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Prepare(revisited):

The purpose of idea ‘Prepare’ is to help single men in America who have been experiencing instigations from women at work who they find attractive. Here’s one example that I imagined. I don’t know if it’s actually happening to single men. It’s just an idea: A single man who has been working for the same job for a few years or more has been experiencing certain instigations from a few women who he finds attractive. One of the things he has been doing to acclimate/recover/make more tenable from the experience is to watch music videos that he imagined these attractive women instigators like.

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Here’s an illustration example refurbished for advice to help you relate to what that single man is going through.

Pushback:

I call this idea ‘Pushback’. I’m using a scene from episode 3.5 ‘Imposters’ from sci-fi tv series ‘Star Trek: Picard(2023)’. The episodes are available from the streaming service ‘Paramount+’, which is available as an Amazon Video Channel, which I am using as a reference. You may watch more of the episode in relation to advice if you want. I’m just quoting it’s gist. The scene starts 9 minutes and 58 seconds into the episode. Here is the quote:

Raffi Musiker(Michelle Hurd): [Raffi sighs] ‘We’ve been denied access to investigate Daystrom. But why deny us and still tell us to pursue?’

Worf(Michael Dorn): ‘I have to assume the denial came from someone above my handler.’

Raffi: ‘They’re hiding something.’ [scoffs] ‘You know, I am so done with all this pushback.’

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So, the single men are experiencing some sort of ‘pushback’, some sort of resistance, caused by the experienced instigation of those few women at work, and they’re trying to mitigate somewhat such experiences. One of the things they are doing is watch music videos that they would imagine those women like, and by watching those music videos, maybe the experienced instigations created by those few women they find attractive that instigated them, maybe the adverse effects can be assuaged somewhat.

So, the idea that I invented, it’s intent is to give them better results to their already ongoing pursuits, to assuage all of that ‘pushback’ those experienced instigations from those few attractive women are causing them to experience. As a result, their sense of preparing would be improved upon.

So, the plan is to offer then 2 stories, then the actual upgraded idea for ‘Prepare’, which would be in several parts. Hopefully for me, I should finish this idea before 3:00PM today. The 1st idea uses a quote from episode 1.1 ‘Josh Just Happens to Live Here!’ from comedy tv series ‘Crazy Ex-Girlfriend(2015)’. The episode is available streaming from Amazon.com, and according to Amazon Video, that scene starts 6 minutes and 29 seconds into the episode. Here is the quote:

Rebecca Bunch(Rachel Bloom): ‘You live in New York?’

Josh Chan(Vincent Rodriguez III): ‘Yeah, the last 8 months.’

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6 minutes and 35 seconds…

Josh: ‘Actually, I’m moving.

Rebecca: ‘Oh, moving.’

Josh: ‘Yeah, I’ve been trying to make it work here in the Big Apple, and one day I realized, why get stuck in a rat race?’

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Here’s the quote I’m talking about:

Josh: ‘…why get stuck in a rat race?’

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According to what I imagined, Josh believed that the people that he worked with were not socializing enough with him. What he did recognize about them was their ability to work efficiently, identified by the phrase ‘rat race’. The truth is, when the people that he worked with would talk about him, they did show concern for him, even wanted for him to interact with them with their job related social events. But since he wasn’t born and raised in New York, in fact, he is from West Covina, California, he was expecting his acquired West Covina, California expectations to just work in New York, and apparently, those expectations weren’t giving him the results that would allow him to notice more the sincere truth his co-workers in New York were willing to express to him.

In my opinion, even under normal circumstances, let’s say you have worked in your work situation for several years or more, if you do not participate with certain job related social events, you may never even meet the very people that you work with. Sure, you work with them maybe. And if you’re not in the same division, if you don’t participate in certain job related social events, you may never meet other co-workers.

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For this 2nd story, I couldn’t find the episode. It’s from the tv series ‘Elementary(2012-2019)’ starring Jonny Lee Miller as Sherlock Holmes. In that episode, it illustrated how women models were temporarily living in New York. Many of them were sharing the same apartment complex in order to save money. I imagined a woman from another state in America, an aspiring model, sharing such an apartment with other women models. When she went back home for a break, while she was with her aunt, she was in a room where her aunt furnished it to look like sort of a temple, and while she was there with her aunt, she realized that the reason she chose to be a model was because of her aunt.

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Like the 1st story, primarily because of her temporary living situation, her sense of motivation was being dulled/lessened, since her expectations were not being reciprocated, like they were at home. And when she went back home during her modeling break, she realized why she became a model in the 1st place, helped by the fact that her expectations were being restored somewhat thanks to her aunt.

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It is now 12:59PM EST for me.

Stabilise:

This is something new that I am now adding to the idea, not originally planned, but I did plan on doing this I think yesterday, but I forgot to use it. The idea is called ‘Stabilise’, from the name of the music video. According to idea ‘Stabilise’, to help the single men, a woman who is instigating single men, certain instigations from that woman may use the fact that she is relying on the stability with her relationship with a man. The instigation identified by idea ‘Stabilise’ causes the single man to destabilize somewhat. It’s like being a hypocrite instigator. A woman who is relying on stability is imposing instigation to destabilize her victims. In this case the victim is a single man.

The solution, well, to help mitigate somewhat the destabilizing effects of such an instigation, is to watch some of music video ‘stabilise’ by Nilüfer Yanya, watch it until 2 minutes an 5 seconds into the music video, before she starts playing the guitar. When you watch the music video, watch it in the context that it is helping you regain somewhat your sense of stabilizing. As you regain your sense of stabilizing watching it, you should notice more the details of that music video.

To watch music video ‘stabilise’, search in www.youtube.com for phrase ‘stabilise’, and it should be one of the 1st selections offered, with 450K views. It was published 1 year ago by publisher Nilufer Yanya.

Here is a quote from the lyrics:

There’s nothing out there
For you and me
I’m going nowhere

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Refurbish the use of the lyrics. Remove the inapproprieities. You’re using her music video presented attitude to replenish somewhat your sense of stabilizing.

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It is now 1:12PM EST for me.

So, here’s the solution that I invented for idea ‘Prepare’: the single men who experienced instigation at work from a few women that they find attractive is creating a sort of ‘pushback’, and they are trying to make more tenable that experience by watching music videos that they made themselves believe that those few women like. They don’t actually know. They are just believing that those music videos are videos that those women also like.

The solution is to give you an example, something to practice with, that will reaffirm/restore somewhat your ability to prepare. If a single man is watching music videos, all sung by women, to help cope from an attractive woman’s instigations, then let’s allow that single man to watch and practice using a music video that allows him to restore somewhat his ability to prepare, that sense of preparing that was being inhibited somewhat by that attractive woman’s instigation at work.

The idea is for the single man to contemplationally sing the lyrics to a certain music video believing that somewhere, that single man’s efforts to contemplationally sing that music video is being reciprocated. The reciprocation could be from another job, another person, even possible situations you should be prepared for in advance in case situations change. As that single man just thinks the song while listening to that music video, he should not need to commit to many forms of emphasis in order to get such a reciprocation. Of course, that single man could change the expectations as he is just thinking of singing along with that music video. You can practice many times, in relation to advice said, and you’ll get better at it. So, for the 1st time participating in this exercise, when that single man ‘sings along’ with the music video, he should not need to make an effort to be reciprocated by another situation. As long as he is singing along, the reciprocation is already happening.

The music video that I chose for this exercise is called ‘Rio’ by Duran Duran. The reason why I chose this music video, well, the 2 reasons is that 1)I really don’t know of that many music videos. My selections are limited, and 2)while watching the music video, it has a lot of obvious reciprocation identifiers. It gives you music video illustrated reciprocation identifiers. So, while a single man is just thinking of singing along, you are singing along with illustrations that reciprocate a certain woman that is illustrated in the music video. Of course, that woman can represent many women. The singing along with that music video, in other words, has instructions as to how you should do it.

To watch music video ‘Rio’, search in www.youtube.com for phrase ‘duran rio’, and it should be one of the 1st selections offered, with 10M views! It was published 5 years ago by publisher ‘Duran Duran’.

Since you may choose to just think of ‘singing along’ to the whole song while watching the music video, here is the lyrics to song ‘Rio’:

Moving on the floor now babe you’re a bird of paradise
Cherry ice cream smile I suppose it’s very nice
With a step to your left and a flick to the right you catch that mirror way out west
You know you’re something special and you look like you’re the best

Her name is Rio and she dances on the sand
Just like that river twisting through a dusty land
And when she shines she really shows you all she can
Oh Rio, Rio dance across the Rio Grande

I’ve seen you on the beach and I’ve seen you on TV
Two of a billion stars it means so much to me
Like a birthday or a pretty view
But then I’m sure that you know it’s just for you

Her name is Rio and she dances on the sand
Just like that river twisting through a dusty land
And when she shines she really shows you all she can
Oh Rio, Rio dance across the Rio Grande

Hey now woo look at that did she nearly run you down
At the end of the drive the lawmen arrive
You make me feel alive, alive alive
I’ll take my chance cause luck is on my side or something
I know what you’re thinking I tell you something I know what you’re thinking

Her name is Rio and she dances on the sand
Just like that river twists across a dusty land
And when she shines she really shows you all she can
Oh Rio, Rio dance across the Rio Grand
Her name is Rio she don’t need to understand
And I might find her if I’m looking like I can
Oh Rio, Rio hear them shout across the land
From mountains in the north down to the Rio Grande
Do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do

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So, while using idea ‘Prepare’, as you are just thinking of the lyrics to the song as you are watching the music video, you should do so in the imagined context that your efforts are being reciprocated, without needing to add more effort, unless you choose to, which should happen the more times you watch the music video ‘Rio’.

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The 2nd illustration example for idea ‘Prepare’ uses 2 scenes from the movie ‘The Flash(2023)’ starring Ezra Miller as Barry Allen, and Sasha Calle as Kara Zor-El. For the single men, this illustration example is going to refurbish a scene from the movie ‘The Flash’ to allow the single man to imagine carrying a single woman that you find attractive. You’re not actually carrying that woman, you’re just using the illustration convenience of the movie ‘The Flash’ to imagine that you are carrying that woman. As you are imagining carrying that woman, the gist of your carrying will be to actually carry certain chosen emotional states of that woman. Let’s say that, as you are carrying her, you are over a place mat, or over a bed, a situation that is relatively safe to carry someone. The movie, obviously, does not present such a convenient situation, but for the sake of imagination, as you get the hang of using it, you will realize more that you’re just imagining carrying her in such a situation because that’s how the movie originally presents it, but in ‘imagination reality’, that’s not actually happening, that the carrying is really a metaphor conveniently conceptualized to represent your ability to handle certain emotional states of the woman that you chose to ‘carry’, so to speak.

That ‘carrying’ illustration is created by 2 scenes in the movie. I watched for the 1st time the movie ‘The Flash’ soon after it was released to the streaming service ‘Max’ I think it was August 25th, 2023, so it’s only been a few weeks since I saw the movie myself. The movie is also available streaming from Amazon.com, and according to Amazon Video, the 1st illustration starts 1 hour and 21 minutes into the movie. Here is the quote:

Barry Allen: ‘I got you.’

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That’s the scene when Barry Allen was carrying Kara Zor-El.

The 2nd illustration starts 1 hour, 36 minutes, and 16 seconds into the movie:

Kara Zor-El: ‘I’ve got you.’

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Now, that’s the scene when Kara Zor-El was carrying Barry Allen. In my opinion, when people in general watched that scene, it was an emotional scene, and many people who watched it the 1st time cried a little while watching it. It’s that feeling to cry that, in my opinion, is what’s going to give this part of idea ‘Prepare’ it’s effectiveness.

Obviously, Kara Zor-El, a Kryptonian woman, is carrying Barry Allen, a man. So, all you have to do, so to speak, is refurbish it. Switch it. Instead of a woman carrying a man, refurbish that scene in your mind. Instead of a woman, it’s a single man who is carrying a woman. It’s a sci-fi fantasy movie to begin with, am I right? Just change it. So, when the single man imagines/thinks about that scene, he is the one carrying a chosen woman that he believes to be attractive to him, and that woman also represents certain emotional states that, in a manner of speaking, he is able to carry, and that single man says to her:

Single man: ‘I got you.’

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As I was inventing this idea, I was also contemplationally addressing possible personality peculiarities that women may present to these single men. I am also a single man, but I’m also typing in this idea right now. Objectivity. Anyway, I made an idea for that. Refurbished, it uses a scene from episode 1.8 ‘Broken Pieces’ from sci-fi tv series ‘Star Trek: Picard(2020)’. Here’s the story for that: I imagined individuals from legitimate becoming ‘Borg Queen’, so to speak. They’re not hooked up like the episode illustrates. It’s very non-invasive to do. Since the technology is still new, you can just be yourself, and you’re doing it. The thing is, for example, when a person is thinking about doing that ‘Borg Queen’ job, it doesn’t matter if the person is a man or a woman, it’s just easier to refer to that job as a ‘Borg Queen’ job for simplicity, that person believes that that person has to have a drastic personality change in order to do it. For this one example, not all examples, you can just ‘be yourself’, and you can be the ‘Borg Queen’. So, to take care of those personality peculiarities that single men may think about, imagine those peculiarities being used while that woman is being Borg Queen. That should help.

The 1.8 ‘Broken Pieces’ episode is available from Amazon.com via Paramount+ Amazon Video Channel, and according to Amazon Video, that scene starts about 27 minutes and 22 seconds into the episode. This is the scene where Seven of Nine(Jeri Ryan) considers to be a Borg Queen. Here is the quote:

Seven of Nine: ‘Thousands more are still in stasis.’

Elnor(Evan Evagora): ‘Wake them up.’

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Anyway, you can watch more of that episode in relation to advice with inapproprieities removed for more understanding.

So, single man imagining carrying selected woman he thinks is attractive, not from his job for initial objectivity. Initially, he already imagined it before, certain emotional states that woman represents, and he would say to her ‘I got you.’ Now, for this imagined exercise, he is imagining that woman representing certain personality peculiarities that bothers him a little, and since women can be anything that they want to be as Borg Queen, even though they initially thought before doing it that they had to undergo some sort of drastic personality change, that innocent man can now see that woman representing certain personality peculiarities, thanks to that ‘Borg Queen’ idea, and then he says to her ‘I got you.’

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Since the movie ‘The Flash’ was already used, let’ make another transition and imagine Bruce Wayne(Michael Keaton) to be a transition example for idea ‘Prepare’. For this idea, Bruce Wayne represents a normal American CEO who gives obvious examples of preparing, for his employees, his job, and for other situations. For example, for the single man, just go from carrying a woman and saying ‘I got you.’ to normal Bruce Wayne CEO representing idea ‘Prepare’.

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It is now 2:31PM EST for me.

I am going to close this list now. I think there’s a good chance that idea ‘Prepare’ may be useful to single men experiencing instigation from certain attractive women where they work, and of course since idea ‘Prepare’ is about preparing, people in general may choose to refurbish idea ‘Prepare’ to be used to improve their own sense of preparing.

Next Thursday, I will finally start explaining idea ‘Do something’, unless I change my mind again. So, if you are there next Thursday, I’ll see you then.

[9/21/2023: It is 3:55PM EST for me.

This is a ‘caution and concern’ warning to not emulate certain actions in the music video ‘Rio’ by Duran Duran, the one I recommended in this list. If you can’t swim, then don’t do the stunts presented in the music video that requires you to have the ability to swim. In fact, don’t emulate any of those stunts that are reckless and dangerous. For example, when that man was thrown overboard while the boat is moving, it’s a moving boat! That can be a dangerous thing to do, even if the person being thrown overboard can swim. 9/21/2023]

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Rated PG-13 for crude and sexual content, language and drug content, viewer discretion for movie ‘Coming 2 America’. Sci-fi violence, viewer discretion for movie ‘Aquaman and the Lost Kingdom’. TV-MA mature themes, sci-fi violence, viewer discretion for tv series ‘Star Trek: Picard’. TV-14 mature themes, viewer discretion for tv series ‘Crazy Ex-Girlfriend’ and ‘Elementary’. Rated PG-13 for sequences of violence and action, some strong language and partial nudity, viewer discretion for movie ‘The Flash’. Use only refurbished for advice references recommended. Throw away rest of episode, series, and movie. [Use mental bookmarks ‘Grudgingly’, ‘Prepare’, and ‘Pushback’ for reference, allocation, and prevention when needed.